Hi guys, random thread i came up with. But imagine the situation. What do you guys do when feeling lonely, but there's noone understanding you. Distracting yourself feels just weired and there's noone though, or at least at the moment. Family is not really the right way for me at least, some friends idk, probably have better things to do than listening to my shit and what else. Anyway am curious about your answers

Nothing I ever did in my lonely years helped. I'd read a whole lot. I'd try to socialize on the Internet, but with little success. I was going through grief at the time, so it was doubly hard. I sincerely hope your lonely time isn't as long or as hard as mine was.

idk. But it hurts so,

my problem is that, idk who counts me as friend or not. I dk who 100% cares about me and who not, etc etc

Yep, hard to know such things for certain. That's life.

hope doesn't sound weired but honestly life can really suck

It can, but it can also be nice, if the right circumstances arrive, by chance or otherwise.

Marc, I've never thought someone would come up with such a topic, but I'm glad you did. I can fully relate to you, especially at these times. My situation is as follows: I love socializing. Seriously. If you've ever seen me in the conferences, you probably recognised that I can't stay silent even for a minute. I always ask something, or talk about things in general, but the main thing is that I always find something to talk about with anyone. In the real life though, outside of the internet, I live in a small city, at about 180 km away from the capital. I study at yet another city, which isn't near my hometown either. Here I don't have any friends. Only my family, my relatives, and my dear little cat. There used to be a camp for blind students from all around the country, and I participated in that project for 3 years. It was awesome. I've managed to make new friends, but the saddest fact is that if I want to meet them, either I had to travel for hours and hours, or they had to do the same. In the end, two people staid next to me. One of them is my boyfriend who I really rarely see, and it's horrible. And the other... The other one is a very nice person, but very strange at the same time. In the first years, she claimed to be a great friend of mine, we did a lot of things together, but as years have passed by, I recognised that only I'm looking for her. Only I write her, I'm the only one who calls her, and she thinks it's just as it should happen. We've fought a lot, I told her many times it doesn't work like this. I've always told her if she doesn't want to talk anymore, tell me and even if it's painful, I'm goihng to deal with it. She has never told anything. Now she is on a trip with her family. She wants me to believe they don't have internet so she can't look for me, but at the same time, her mother posts pictures on facebook, her brothers play online games, as well as her father, and I'm not only talking into emptiness but I can prove these things. No, I don't expect her to look for me when she's on a trip with her family. She was the one who promised me she was going to do so, it was not me who told her. Next week she was supposed to visit me, or at least, we were talking about it. The only thing she would need to tell me is with which train she comes, so I can pick her up at the train station, because she can't orientate in this city. She's disappearing instead, and when I ask her, obviously, because it's happening in a few days, she shrugs her shoulders and tells she doesn't know yet. It has already brought me so much pain and tears to always think about if it really worths fighting for this friendship, or I should just let it go. Obviously this is more deep than I described in this post, so if someone can relate to this situation we can continue in private, it would be just too long to write everything down. But yes, it's me in a nutshell.

i'm sorry to hear this. But as you see its not healthy for you and brings you only pain. I've learned that, in the hard way, that things doesn't work this way. I've been cheeted on, even though people warned me but i didn't listen. So i had to go through the fire and i've learned of it so, if you even say you could deel with it, how hard it sounds, let this fake friend go. And that also was my first internet relation and was also the last one, since i'm not a fan of it. People helped me through this and there was 1 friend remaining, we're internet friends since 2 years and we still have contact, which is nice. I do hav real life friendds but i'm not sure who is fun friend and who really cares about my problems. Ya know, i want to help them but when i'm a problem who would help me from them. Its rather frustrating that rather internet friends do, instead of some real life ones or so i feel like.
Then, i have that 1 girl in class, and i developed really, really strong feelings to her. When i write her or, wrote her once and said sorry if i bothered she kepped saying i wouldn't bother and the only reason she would have discord would be me but that wasn't 100% true when a friend told me she said it is chilled without me not all the time. I could overreact but i wish people could at least be more honest.

sorry for the few edits, fixed some typos, i type really fast so

Yes, I'm in a similar situation. When she nees help,, I'm always there for her because what a friend I'd be if I didn't help. But if I'm the one who needs help, noone is there for me, because I'm a burden for everyone.

it feels nice not to be alone in these kinda things

I can relate, honestly, in virrtual world you see me socializing and stuff, but in real life to be honest, I don't have friends, excluding a cousin who's more an acquaintance, and her sister I'm a little more closer with but she's 9 so not a lot really, but still something.
But anyway, if you need a shoulder to cry on or something, I'm here at any hour, I love listening people's stuff, I'm terrible at giving advice, but you won't be alone :)

Hi, I’ve struggled to make friends through most of my life. So I understand what you all mean. I have some that I chat too, online, although I do dry up sometimes. Offline, I become shy, and don’t always know what to say. I try to make the best of it, but sometimes I wish for that kind of closeness, you could get from people if you were lucky.

I seem to be a very lucky blind guy, because i have a few good friends in real life.
And then also a lot of people I like to talk to in general.
My advice for everyone who strugles with making friends is, find a hobbie you can enjoi with more people.
Listening to music and making computer programs is not going to bring social contact.
I think it's good to find a sport you like and it's best to play that sport in a group, that way you build trust with random people, and from that arises friendship most of the time.
Also when people don't quite get blindness, just explain clearly what you need from them, or otherwise some people will become fake friends who will be your friend because they feel sorry for you.
I feel quite sorry from reading this actually, and if anyone wants me to listen them or waht ever you can message me.
Don't take my advice too siriously, as I am defenitily not an expert, this is only my experience and this is how I got to know a lot of good and nice people.
Also at school it is very often that people don't start talking to you, if you don't talk to them first.
So you need to be the one who starts something a lot of times, and then people discover you're infact a nice person and they will see you as a friend.
Again this is what I did and it helped me a lot, it's not professional advice or anything like that.

you sound true though. Well my school thing is that i have the norwegian language barior. These people can speak very. Very well english but my parents claim they know they would feel uncomfortable with that, but like a girl there she's from a native speaking english country in afrika so heh, that is no argument. Quite hot btw but ahem ahem well. Problem is i want to make her, but other people laugh too. On tt or elten with some, actually good way to call them, mates it sometimes works without realising it, but in school i can't be funny. At least not to her or the class in general, that some what only works with teachers or when i'm alone with a friend there and even that is less, so most likely only teachers and this is frustrating, plus i really have no motivation for the norwegian stuff. Ya know my parents push me but a year ago they complained i never show them my good english but then they say omfg, you can't speak english all day, you need to...
Yep you get me i suppose. Kind of problematic but well its life. Also i do need to work on self love. While my father thinks i have to much of them, in my interior that is not true at all, and i, in fact, hate myself a lot sometimes. Yet i still love someone but they say if you don't love yourself you can't love someone else, but how should that be explained then. Idk.

Maybe lrning the language would people feel more relaxed when talking to you, and being funny is something you are good at or not.
Like sometimes funny situations happen and you can make jokes about it but it's hard if you are not good ad thinking instantly if you know what I meen.
When people make a joke it's allways good to laugh together, people just like that no mather if you even understand what's going on lol.
I didn't know I could explain this much about socialising rofl.

lol. ButThis is the problem. I hate this language and feel weired as an acter when i have to speak even a single word of it. And like i said these people can speak very well english so i'm not sure if that exactly is the prob like everyone pretends it is. But that lang makes me feel very uncomfortable to speak. Heck, writing is even ok even though i may not be the best in it. And about jokes, sadly some are some sighted meams i probably don't really get so well, ugh. Lol

As for sighted schools I don't know what vibe is there as I am at a school for the blind and visually impared.
However, I quite get the hole this joke is only good for sighted people thing.
I think it's best to find a hobbie that doesn't involve these kinds of things so you can do that with other people at the same levvel.

I WILL THINK ABOUT THAT