How Mariya said...
And that doesn't happen only in the blind community.
While I agree with dj's point of view, I can't impose my life on anyone so if they don't harm anyone, their choice.

Well, dating apps can work in fact. You only need to set your expectations. My sister whent on a dating app just to try it, and she now has a relationship lasting 2 years already. She of course had good luck, but if you just keep waiting and wait a little longer for the so called true love, you are not likely to find someone.

Not true. I know noone in my real life who used those apps for their partner. But again everyone believes something else yk? Waiting for the good someone who really is the one for you, when you notice/feel it is rather the best step I think. And of course you will/may have relations before, and if you break up it's painful but it rewards you with experience, maybe wizdom. I would be rather uncomfortable dating random people and not even knowing them/having a sorda friendship so really idk.

Well, the important thing is to find the person you feel happy with/the person that could, in any way, make you happy.
Sure, no relationship is perfect. But...I think you get my point.
And if you find that person on a dating app, the toilet of a bar, whatever, then you do you, enjoy the love of your life. And if not, it's a new life experience.
But this has a such different range of possibilities, that if I start writing all what I think, I could write even past 2050's new year eve.
Yet, if you feel like your relationship makes you happy, then enjoy.
If not...well, how I said in both cases there's a large range of possible outcomes.
Happy for your sis, Monkee. Typo intended.

Just saying, there are relationships which have started through internet. Mine is such a relationship as well. Of course, I have never used any dating apps, I was just very, very lucky to be honest. It's a waaay different feeling when everything starts online. And I admit, it's way more difficult as well, arrange everything. Maybe I was lucky to an exdent, but on the other hand it's way more difficult for me and for him to arrange our life well, to live with each other. It's not a secret, I'm from Hungary and he is from Russia. And we all know the situation nowadays...

Yea, its more or less the same for me. I mean, I know my gf also from real life, but without all those chats we never would be here now. Annd I think I can agree to you in that.

Most perhaps not many meet online these days. At least in my own experience. It might be different in other countries. Sometimes online relationships work well, and for others they don't. Sometimes it would feel like you were loving a fantasy or an idelised idea of a person or what they'd want you to see. Sorry for the off-topic.

Yeah, on internet we can easily hide stuff to impress someone we...love? Have feelings for?
Like, they can't smell you through the screen and feel you didn't shower for 3 weeks, that your mouth stinks, that you snore, don't change your clothes unless super necessary, well this is an extreme example but the point is, in real life you'd do whatever to impress that one person, much more online because you can hide a lot more and show yourself the way you want yourself to be perceived.
Thing is, if you meet up with that person and they discover the truth, you both will suffer, and that person will think something like hm, if they lied in this aspect/decided to hide it, how many more lies/hiden truths I have to find out?
So yeah, better be direct/don't try to paint yourself as perfect rather to your love interests, friends, whatever because they'll discover it sooner or later.
I mean, there's that slim chance of you being in Zanzibar and the other person far away in Finland, and never meet face to face, and that thing won't be discovered ever, but, I wouldn't risk it tbh.

never put in a bio that you're blind, that's what I recommend. you need to impress the person without them knowing that you're actually blind and then when they realise it you'll be fine anyway. that's what I do.

It can go the other way also. I mean that other person might say, why didn't you tell me earlier, and not be interested.

Yeah.

I guess it's different with everyone sadly. Just, as usual...

Hey, what's up, guys? It's your buddy Mike, or Gerod, or even the legendary Staticmaster/President Lion. Call me whatever floats your boat. So, here's the deal: I've been in a solid relationship for over a year and five months now. I'm 15 and my girl's 14. And let me tell you, love ain't a walk in the park, my friends. It's tough. But you know what's important? Accepting your partner for who they are.
Let me take you back a bit. My girl and I were just regular friends, hanging out and all that. But after three years, my feelings for her changed. She's got epilepsy since 2019 and deals with emotional stuff from time to time. But you know what? I didn't say, "Screw this, I'm outta here. Can't handle this shiz." Nah, my motto is to never leave someone in the dark. There were countless times when I stuck around when things got rough, worrying about the friends I made along the way on elten, when I would leave, I constantly worried about upseting them because thye mattered to me at least a little, and I came back and at least said hello.
Now, let's talk about the blind community. Sometimes they can be real bastards, you know? But hey, it's my digital home now, where everyone can unleash unimaginable levels of bastarding on each other. XD But seriously, my point is, if you're crushing on someone, here's my advice: show them your best side, but also be true to yourself. Don't change who you are just to impress them. And for me, not leaving anyone in the dark is something that'll never change, no matter what.
Sure, my girlfriend can annoy the hell outta me sometimes, but I won't let some petty stuff weaken my love for her. People might do things differently, but if you wanna chat, hit me up in a private message. I won't spill our convos to anyone, unless someone kicks my ass, cuts off my head, and hangs me from the ceiling... you get the idea. But seriously, our talks will stay between us.
One last thing, folks. If you're in a real relationship, don't be afraid to talk to your partner. I made that mistake once, and let me tell ya, it didn't end well. So, good luck to all you kick-ass boys and girls out there. May your love adventures be epic and everlasting!

Agree. Same.

Nicely formulated! And this epilepsy thing is something I can totaly understand. I had one of those seesures for example quite recently and hoping it doesn't repeat. Now I got panic attacks instead but well that is off topic. What I'm trying to say, if they don't even except those things, or whatever type of ishue you may have, it won't even be a friend in the first place, so we can't talk about relationships with that person anyway.
A good thing is that since I'm in this country and my town has almost only friendly people in and I mean it, excepting each other is no ishue. What sometimes is the ishue, is the fact that you can just not talk to the one you have this feeling in your stomach for, just like you talk to your buddys.
And I'm facing the same. Trying to be myself is probably not even hard, but what is hard for me and many many others is simply the overload of thoughts. Do I appear nice? Do I say something that is wrong? Does she or, he notice anything? I could go on. The hard thing is simply to let those thoughts go, yet I agree so much with what you said and it has true points.

Hey Marc! Thanks for sharing, man. I totally get what you're saying—it feels like life sucks right now with all the war and COVID stuff. But hey, at least COVID seems to have chilled out, and I'm glad about that. The only advice I can give you is to have confidence in yourself. Nobody deserves to feel alone, and I truly believe that you'll find true love someday. Personally, I think if you're confident, no medical or mental condition can stop you from chasing your dreams and hopes—or was it hopes and dreams? Haha! Anyway, if you need a buddy to talk to, I'm here for you. Well, maybe not always, but whenever I hear from you, I'll do my best to reply. Don't worry, that's just how I roll, man. be the best you can be, you kickass legend!

hey again. I was just curious, to which post did you reply? Because I wasn't sure how we started to talk about the covid/war thing and me sharing something besides in the first posts, which is over a year ago. Luckily I realised things and took my choices regarding that person, but obviously it came how it had to and it's another one since some months. Since this thing early 2022, I had 3 big crushes. I don't have small ones. Honestly this is good on one hand, but on the other, it can make one break down badly when realising that even though with more experience things just repeat like the first time and hope appears to have died out.

Don't worry, the whole COVID thing was just my personal opinion. Yeah, I guess I understand that. Hey, you know, you don't have to actively search for love. It naturally comes to you, and I might be wrong, but I think the ones that come to you work out the best. Personally, it kinda did and didn't for me, but yeah. If you ever feel like you've been left out of stuff, I don't know, you can try to remember what makes you the best person you can be and what makes you a total badass. Like I said before, I'm usually free since it's summer now, so if you just want someone to call a jerk, insult, and have casual chats with, then I'm always there. well not always, but will try my damnitest

This exact thing is what I like about sharing life experiences within a comunity. Even though blind comunitys ahem ahem no comment, some times it can happen things like this and I think it's nice to see that here. And sure, since summer holidays start on wednesday noon for me and then 8 weeks being ahead, I don't see a reason for not doing so, getting people to know is nice. Well yeah. I remember a time, end of 2021 when I was telling to my only one, but good friend in school who still has a brain, that I want an english speaking american girlfriend Lol. Now I moved out of that country, new school, things last year started to happen and now I'm of course wiser than that 15 year old being who was just not to long ago at that time had an experience with a fake internet relationship. It's to aucwert to talk about now though, because let's just say, this trap was one that was trapping a lot of people. But yeah, I'm drifting off/away from things I am beginning, how nice. Heh.
Yes. What I wanted to say is that I never ran around wanting to crush on someone, though again before this crush which began this thread I sometimes had those thoughts. Now I know that, and I say this to everyone, expecting a certain person in a certain way is uh, not how it works. Because those people don't fall from the sky out of the heavens and suddenly appear in front of you and then you have a relation.
But again I don't know how it's so hard to be myself in this, and I'm worrying she may has figured out some parts of my behavior. I don't hope so but... But guess what. Everyone has summer holidays now, and everyone is either jobbing, going on vacation and whatnot. But I? I'm the blind german sitting alone and I'm sick of this. Same for my self confidence that never became any better, rather the opposit. The point of that is though, I'm not really sure how when it comes to approaching. Tomorrow will be a last meeting where the ones from our youth church meetings have a gathering in someones garden. The problem is, asking a person over and over ay can we meet? Could you maybe guide me in building A or b? May be quickly annoying to anyone and starts making them uncomfortable. Either way, I've explained this all to a good friend which I thought I have lost a while ago, but which showed me a while ago how much she actually still cares. All happened through her switching her school after finishing in 10th grade, then you go to highschool here, grade 11 to 13. I am or was 2 grades below though bc I came in here from germany and didn't know a single word of the language almost. The point is it's very hard to answer for her sometimes and she tends to be forgetful without wanting to be that, but she is a good friend of her and maybe she can help me even though contact to her and all friends in my town she had got less. Time makes us find out. But this circle of time is what I hate the most... And the only thing being able to stop it is love. It actually can sometimes. But that's another story, I'm going on for way to long and should probably move this to private xd

something strange happened to me. A few years back I had a bit of a bad experience, basically I got rejected. and from that time, I told myself to stop pursuing girls until I start highschool. It's been one year since I started highschool now and I don't feel any kind of affection/love/crush or whatever, and no, don't tell me that I haven't met the right person because I do believe I have but it's like I'm num for some reason.